Life Coaching from the Get Unstuck book, endorsed by Deepak Chopra

Changing Your Life

“To continue doing the same thing and expecting different results is insanity.” –Albert Einstein


Change happens instantly! Deciding to change usually takes some time—sometimes years. When your life isn’t going the way you want or expect, it’s time to change. People change all the time; sometimes it’s for the better, sometimes not. Occasionally we resist change because what we have now is familiar and comfortable. It may not be exactly what you want, but it’s not the worst thing in the world. Sometimes you want to change, but you don’t know how. Sometimes you just feel stuck in a rut. When you reach a place of frustration and hopelessness regarding a problem, that’s the time to reach out for help. Perhaps you just need reinforcement. Asking for help for some people represents failure.
Do you tell yourself, “I couldn’t do it on my own, so I’m a failure?” On the other hand, maybe you say, “If I have to ask for help, there must be something wrong with me.”
The truth is, asking for help is many times the best thing you can do. The problem is, sometimes you might feel like you don’t deserve help or, worse yet, there is no chance of helping you. That’s when you have to reach out. There’s always help, and sometimes you’re just too close to the picture to see it. Sometimes you “think” you can see your situation accurately, and you conclude there’s no way you can be helped, but your conclusion is wrong. No matter what, there’s help!
One of the keys to understanding, is knowing you matter. As long as you believe you matter, you will find a way out. I’m speaking from experience in this area. I’ve been diagnosed as clinically depressed. I wasn’t locked up in a “loony bin,” but I needed professional help. My story is like many other people. In my case, it started with what I call my “worst year.” I was fired twice in six months. That was quite a shock to me. I had never been fired before, much less twice! I didn’t know that in the restaurant field, there is a lot of turnover as part of the normal business cycle. I could have taken this as a signal that maybe I should look at another career. I wish I had! Instead, I read my firings as a message that I must not be “good enough.”
I did not expect what came next. My best friend committed suicide, and I was the one who found him. This really tipped my world upside down. Shortly thereafter, my dog died. What more could happen? I became so depressed that I was very defensive with the people around me. I was angry and frustrated. I felt helpless. Worse, I didn’t know why all this was happening. I lashed out verbally when I felt I was being attacked, even when no one was attacking me. Because of this, I lost my fiancé. I took another job in the hope of saving the relationship, not to mention to help my self-esteem. Again, due to my defensiveness, I lost that job too. This was another validation that I was a “loser.” Years later, I was still in denial about the reality of the situation. In fact, I used to ... to read more click here:http://www.getunstuck.com/